Welcome to Day 14 in our 31 Day series on A Mom’s Guide to Getting it All Done. In case you missed yesterday’s post you may want to go and read it first. Or just jump in right here with us today.
Yesterday we talked a little bit about why we need a mentor and what might get in the way of us having one. Today let’s chat a little more in-depth about how to find a mentor.
Chances are good that you already know someone who could mentor you. Perhaps there is someone in your neighborhood or at your church who is several years beyond you in life and experience? Remember to not expect her to be perfect and she doesn’t have to be very similar to you either. You do need to get along and “click” so to speak but she doesn’t have to be future you. You want someone who cares about you and is willing to invest their time into helping you grow and pursue God more deeply.
So how do you connect with them and ask them about mentoring? First of all pray. Ask God to lead you to the right woman and have an open heart to who He might want to connect you with. Next, simply ask her. It will take some courage but I have found that so many women are willing and they just may not make the first move or even think to. If they say they can’t for whatever reason don’t take offense. They are counting the cost and need to keep their priorities in order. If they need to say no it’s for their best interest and yours too. You don’t want t mentor who can barely fit you in. Find someone who will be all in.
If you are having a hard time finding someone to mentor you consider finding someone online. It’s as simple as asking Facebook friends or women you respect and admire on Twitter or from blogs you read. If they say no just move on until you find someone who has the time and the heart to pour into you. They are out there. I promise. I hear from them often.
What do you do once you get a mentor? Set expectations and they shouldn’t be complicated. Meet maybe once a week or every other week. Write down questions to ask her as you go through your days and things come up. Perhaps you can choose a Bible study to do together or certain scripture to discuss. Ask her to pray for you.
Remember to listen well. Take her advice and try it. You’ll have to position yourself to receive from her and that can be hard if you feel like you should be giving something back. Trust me, she will be just as blessed from her giving to you as you are in the receiving. If you really want to give back consider mentoring someone your self. All that you need is a few more years of experience to be a mentor and you can really mentor your whole life long.
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