Last night I held my 6-year-old on my lap and I spoke destiny to her. I told her how loved and special she is. I asked her if she knows that she is amazing and special and that God has great plans for her. I told her how unique and priceless she is. The whole package of who she is, even her quirks and weaknesses, is so wonderful.
I did this as I sat across from one of my teens who is struggling with insecurity quite a bit right now. All teen girls do to an extent but this one wears her heart on her sleeve and sometimes it yells “I’m so insecure.”
As I spoke these words over my 6-year-old I had a moment of regret that I was not in a place to speak them over my teen girls when they were just 6 years old. I forgave myself quickly and asked God to teach me how to speak just as much life and destiny to them in the short time I have left with them.
The thing that we moms MUST catch is that our own insecurities and the weight of our own failings will be passed on to our kids if we let them. If we do not deal with them and overcome them we will only be examples of insecurity to our kids. Moms who walk in insecurity cannot impart confidence and security to their children.
We have a choice:
A) accept ourselves, learn to love ourselves, forgive ourselves and find our security only in Christ.
OR
B) stay in our insecurity, have it run our lives and leak out from us all over our children.
And when presented with the choice who would ever want answer B?
If you find yourself insecure and questioning your value the most important thing you can do for yourself and your children is to draw near to God and let Him tell you who you are. Read His Word, listen for His voice and dwell on what He says about you. Every other source of security is faulty. Others will fail you. You will fail yourself. God will never fail you.
My teen daughter is going through her insecurity because the call on her life is great and the devil wants to steal her destiny AND I am going through this with her because part of the call on my life is to steal destiny back from the enemy and return it to the women he’s stolen it from. I can only say this because I now know who I am and the call on my life and I am confident in the God who says it about me.
The next generation is desperate for us to overcome insecurity and learn how to be brave so that we can mother them toward their calling and not into a corner. We can empower them now with truth and wholeness or we can live hoping that our own lack of confidence in who and Who’s we are won’t affect them. But it will.
So beautiful! As always, blessed by your words, Kristin!
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Christie, I’m so behind with replying. Thanks so much for your kind words and encouragement! Love, Kristin
So beautiful. As the mom of two girls, I’ve tried to be so intentional – yet look back and wish I’d done even more than I’d already tried to do. We all wish we’d been gentler in that moment, wiser, more understanding, more strict – even. But I believe, like you, the call on my children is great. And I will fight for them.
That’s awesome Dionna! They are so blessed to have you as their mom. Blessings, Kristin
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