39 Things I Want Younger Women to Know

I turned 39 this month. It seems monumental in some way. One more year and I will be in my 40’s. Not that 40 scares me. It doesn’t. I look forward to it. But I wanted to pause here and reflect on some of the things I’ve learned these past 39 years and pass them on. Here are 39 Things I Want Younger Women to Know.

1. Jesus will always be with you. Whether you are walking fully with Him or not. He will.
2. He understands your questions and can handle them. He doesn’t leave you when you doubt.
3. It’s okay to not have what you want to do/be fully figured out when you are in your teens, 20’s or 30’s. God will guide you and the journey is actually more important than the destination.
4. Fear is a liar and a thief. If you listen to it you will suffer.
5. God wants to make you fearless. For real. No fear.
6. The enemy wants you to stay fearful and he will do whatever he can to make your fears seem true.
7. Love the life you have. It’s the only one you get to live.
8. The only way to fulfill your calling is to do what you are called to do right where you are. This doesn’t leave room for comparison.
9. Your belief is extremely important. What you believe will be what you live. Check how you are living often.
10. If you don’t think you can, that is awesome! You can’t but God can.
11. Whatever you think you absolutely cannot do…you probably can. Change your thinking.
12. You can ask God for wisdom all the time. You need it anyway and He’ll give it freely if you believe He will.
13. One of the best things you can do for yourself and others is to become a whole person. Pursue freedom as if your life depends on it.
14. Learn to rest.
15. Learn to like yourself. Do you like yourself?
16. Learn what you want and how to express it.
17. Be quick to listen and slow to speak.
18. Invest in friends who are at a level you desire to be at. No matter how strong you are, weak friends can bring you down to their level.
19. Walk humbly but also with huge confidence in the calling God has on your life. He wants to do outrageous things through you.
20. Dream Big.
21. Do things that you don’t know how to do yet. Don’t let not knowing how stop you from stepping into something you feel called to do. You will learn along the way.
22. Find mentors and mentor others behind you.
23. Believe that older women are anxious for you to ask them for advice and counsel. They have wisdom for you whether they did it all right or not.
24. Spending time with God is not something God just wants you to do just for Him. He knows you need it like the air you breathe and it will be your lifeline.
25. Marriage is tough. But it’s worth it.
26. Motherhood is tough. But it’s worth it.
27. You don’t lose yourself in motherhood. It may feel like it at times but you won’t if you seek God in the midst of it.
28. Being a mom is not insignificant. You are sowing into generations.
29. Everything that feels hard is just a season. You can make it through this season.
30. God is always faithful. Always. The sooner you accept this the sooner you will find peace and rest.
31. Be kind to yourself. Women can be their own worst enemies. Intentionally speak kindly to yourself.
32. Learn what your strengths are and build on them.
33. Learn what your weaknesses are and love yourself anyway.
34. Trust God when He says that His power is made perfect in your weakness.
35. Seeking God first orders your life. If you seek something else first that thing will order your life. Who/what do you want ordering your life?
36. Margin is your friend. Always leave room in your day for the unexpected, especially if you are a mom.
37. Breath deeply
38. Laugh often
39. Decide to love no matter what and ask God to expand your capacity to love. It will change your life.

I love you dear reader and I hope that you have been blessed and encouraged today!

What would you add to your own list? Share in the comments so we can learn from you too!