Really the point of this whole series? Well, it’s overcoming fear. Fear that we won’t be excellent moms. Fear that we may not even be okay moms. We need steps to get us from our fear place to a faith place of believing we are good and can do this without screwing it all up.
Fear is the thing that drives us to confuse excellence with perfection and is the heartbreak we live with when we mess up one more time. Fear whispers lies that sound like truth about who we are, what we do and how very much it matters.
And what dispels fear like a puff of smoke? Perfect love.
Can we be honest with each other for a few moments today? What is your greatest fear in motherhood? What does perfect love say about that fear?
I’ll go first…
I have often feared that I don’t spend enough time with my children individually.
The fear was so crippling to me that it kept me in a place of perpetually not spending enough time with my kids. The only way I began to overcome was to take that fear to Perfect Love. I got really honest about my fear and surrendered my weakness. I had been fighting the idea that I would be so awful as to not want to spend much time individually with my kids. But, you know what? I was that awful. That sin of selfishness was lurking in my heart and my shame allowed fear to speak to me and keep me bound in the same pattern. When I admitted my fear to a loving God and asked Him to take my shame He changed my heart {is changing my heart}.
The last few weeks have been a joy as I have new life in my heart. It has been so much easier for me to intentionally take time with my children. Whether reading a book, a late night chat, or a stop at Starbucks after a class for a one-on-one chat, It’s been precious and amazing and I never could have changed my heart on my own. Only through my surrender was my heart changed.
Fear keeps us bound. Shame holds us captive. Perfect love heals our hearts, takes our yuck and sets us free.
What fears do you have about motherhood? Did you know that shame loses its power when it is exposed to light? Let perfect love flood your heart and set you free.
