Welcome to day 5 of our Becoming an excellent {not perfect} mother series. I am praying for you that you will be refreshed and blessed as you seek truth and learn how to overcome in your mothering.
Have you noticed that I haven’t mentioned much at all about our kids yet? There is a reason for this. Becoming an excellent mom is largely dependent us becoming whole. We become whole when we believe truth and let it transform our lives.
There is a really big factor that plays into us becoming whole that I want to address before we go on. This one has my spirit stirred as I think about God’s love for us and His desire that we would be free and continue to walk in freedom. This big factor is the way we were parented. Are you ready to do some heart searching and let God heal some places in you?
Perhaps you had a perfect childhood with an attentive mother who was always gentle and comforting? Perhaps your daddy was strong and supportive and always made time for you? But perhaps it wasn’t this way.
Let’s talk about our dads today and tomorrow we’ll talk about our moms.
Maybe you had a dad that was really busy or yelled a lot? He may have been abusive or just absent. Maybe you’ve lost your dad already? Did you know that we tend to see our Heavenly Father the same way we saw our earthly father growing up? Your dad may have been an amazing dad but no one is perfect and even in his best efforts some of his mistakes could have hurt you.
Will you take a moment right now to ask God about these things. I am praying for you that the Holy Spirit will comfort you as you go to this place that may be a bit painful to go. But please go there. I promise there is healing and comfort in the midst of the pain when you let Jesus heal your heart.
Let your Daddy God speak to you about how He will never leave you, He loves you and you are so very valuable to Him. He is not mad at you and will not ever give up on you. He will never abandon you and the details of your life matter greatly to Him.
Let the truth invade the space of the lies. Then ask God to help you to forgive your dad for his short comings. You may need to deal with some judgements you made toward your dad too. If he did something you don’t like you may have made a vow like “I will not be like my dad.” or “I will never (fill in the blank) to my kids.” These are vows and judgements and the Bible says that in the same manner that you judge you will be judged. It is an open door for the enemy to assault you. If you ask forgiveness for making these vows and ask God to fill your heart with truth you will walk in a new level of freedom.
We parent out of the way we were parented. Sometimes it was a great experience that you attempt to follow and other times it was not so great and you want to do the complete opposite. God’s heart is that you would parent out of His example and not as a result of hurts and vows based on your parents.
I know today might be a bit heavy, especially if you do take the time to ask God about your dad. But please take the time to do this. You can never really become an excellent mom until you let God work in this area and heal your heart.
Tomorrow we’ll discuss our mothers and their roles in our lives. I hope you’ll join me for that too. I’m praying for you today!
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